Seeing What’s In Front of Us
The other day I brought a friend to the barn to meet Annie. She hung out with Annie and I as I groomed Annie and got her ready to spend time in the arena. After I exercised my beautiful mare, my friend had the opportunity to walk and “be” with her.
After our visit, my friend talked about Annie and how calm and sweet she is.
She is right.
And yet, while I know that, more of my thoughts recently had been centered around the times when I was dealing with her more ‘mare-ish’ behaviours. While still mild as compared to some mares, they were requiring me to be a little more firm with her at times. By thinking more about that, I was forgetting and perhaps minimizing her good characteristics, of which there are many.
It made me think about us as leaders and how purposeful we need to be about being present and honouring others’ strengths, while we work with them to develop and reach for something more.
Here are a couple of questions to consider. . .
How often do we focus on what we would like others to do differently and while doing so, forget about the strengths that they have?
How can we help them leverage those strengths while striving to learn and do more?
I believe that people want to do their best. Everyone has strengths that they bring to the job. At the same time, everyone has something they can improve on, build on, and learn about.
While we partner with those we lead, mentor and coach, let’s be present, and recognize and value their strengths, so we are better able to help facilitate their growth as professionals, leaders and people.
“Every moment of one’s existence, one is growing into more or retreating into less.” – Norman Mailer.
Which do you want to be a part of?